Opinion About Marriage

sunrico90 · 10-19-2006, 11:06 PM

Please provide your opinions:

Why do people consider marriage,is necessary to marry?

Why don't people continue in cohabitation/defacto relationships?

What is the point of marriage/should it exist?

mariatherese · 10-20-2006, 12:55 AM

hmmmm...

i have been in a relationship for 6 years and we are engaged, though we havent set a date. were in no rush.

i dont know... i honestly could say that if my fiance and i didnt get married, i would be OK with that. but, it would be nice for the follwing reasons:

-i would feel like it was "official" and would become part of his family... so when i go to his family functions, his nephews would be my nephews... they could call me aunt maria. i would feel more connected to them.

-i wouldnt have to keep referrirng to him as my "boyfriend." that is such a lame term. you can use that term for someone you have just met! it doesnt represent the way we feel about each other- we are more like family.

-i would be able to wear a ring, so that others knew i was spoken for.

-i honestly believe that rituals and rites of passage are important parts of our lives. they help make sense of life. they bring people together... i would enjoy the ceremony and our families being there.

but, that doesnt mean i think it is necessary. its just something i want to do, for me.

grammyof4 · 10-20-2006, 06:15 AM

Nice thoughts, Maria.

**Corlyx** · 10-20-2006, 03:28 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by sunrico90

Please provide your opinions:

Why do people consider marriage,is necessary to marry?

Why don't people continue in cohabitation/defacto relationships?

What is the point of marriage/should it exist?

Marriage (at least according to the state) gives certain benefits to couples that they wouldn't otherwise get if they remained unmarried. I don't know the full list by any means, but I think there's a lot of people out there that get married just for the sake of getting married. It's just assumed that's what you do. Like having kids or going to college, people just expect you to do it and that influences a lot of people, especially younger people.

Today people think of marriage as being about love, but really it's historical roots are in more tangible aspects like property arrangements and inheritance and had very little to do with love. The state's interpretation of marriage doesn't include that love aspect that's been tacked onto it. I don't think it's for everyone.

sunrico90 · 10-20-2006, 10:35 PM

Why do people consider marriage, is necessary to marry?

Marriage is a relationship between or among individuals, usually recognized by civil authority and/or bound by the religious beliefs of the participants. The fact that marriage often has the dual nature of a binding legal contract plus a moral promise can make it difficult to characterize.
A married couple can be called each other's spouses, and spousal is used as a legal term for the marital relation. In one form or another, marriage is found in virtually every society.

Why don't people continue in cohabitation/defacto relationships?

They don’t want to establish a legal moral promise.
This is also defined as an emotional, physical, and intellectually intimate relationship which includes a common living place and which exists without the benefit of legal, cultural, or religious sanction.

What is the point of marriage/should it exist?

The basic purpose of marriage is to establish a legal and binding contract between two individuals that are not afraid to commit to stay together because of love. This step does certified to the community that legal and personal responsibilities were accepted and furthers the future of the family that was formed.

Yes, should remain the greatest and biggest step that a couple will take on their life’s.

RAINBOWWAVES · 10-21-2006, 02:38 AM

A friend of ours was with her mate for 25 yrs. He died and his assets were frozen. Family came out of the woodwork to fight..she was in litagation for 6 yrs and only won a third of the estate. Marriage is a license to get the goods.

elfyum · 10-22-2006, 09:47 PM

Rainbow- I agree...I see it as a benefit for legal matters.
Maria - HI!!!

That's funny - that's EXACTLY how I feel about the term "boyfriend"!!!

It sounds completely juvenile! That's why I call him "my love"!

Husband isn't quite right because we are not "legal", but boyfriend could be anything! You could have a bunch of them...It's such a vague term...

mariatherese · 10-24-2006, 02:33 AM

i usually just call him "poopface."

RAINBOWWAVES · 10-25-2006, 03:32 PM

I see not being married as a waste of good time. It's like trying on a pair of shoes but never buying them...LOL

**a1m1700** · 10-29-2006, 12:29 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by sunrico90

Please provide your opinions:

Why do people consider marriage,is necessary to marry?

Why don't people continue in cohabitation/defacto relationships?

What is the point of marriage/should it exist?

Marriage is a commitment and should be taken seriously. A lot of people these days just jump in and out of relationships and when they get tired of one another they split. I think it's easier for people to live together so they can split and make a clean break without going through red tape. To each his own. I just think if you are not committed enough to get married you should not start a family out of wedlock. Just my thought on the subject.

10-19-2006, 11:06 PM	#1 (permalink)
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10-20-2006, 12:55 AM	#2 (permalink)
mariatherese Junior Member Join Date: Oct 19th, 2006 Location: Detroit Posts: 34	hmmmm... i have been in a relationship for 6 years and we are engaged, though we havent set a date. were in no rush. i dont know... i honestly could say that if my fiance and i didnt get married, i would be OK with that. but, it would be nice for the follwing reasons: -i would feel like it was "official" and would become part of his family... so when i go to his family functions, his nephews would be my nephews... they could call me aunt maria. i would feel more connected to them. -i wouldnt have to keep referrirng to him as my "boyfriend." that is such a lame term. you can use that term for someone you have just met! it doesnt represent the way we feel about each other- we are more like family. -i would be able to wear a ring, so that others knew i was spoken for. -i honestly believe that rituals and rites of passage are important parts of our lives. they help make sense of life. they bring people together... i would enjoy the ceremony and our families being there. but, that doesnt mean i think it is necessary. its just something i want to do, for me.

10-20-2006, 06:15 AM	#3 (permalink)
grammyof4 Newbie Join Date: Oct 19th, 2006 Posts: 15	Nice thoughts, Maria.

10-20-2006, 10:35 PM	#5 (permalink)
sunrico90 Banned Join Date: Oct 17th, 2006 Posts: 27	Why do people consider marriage, is necessary to marry? Marriage is a relationship between or among individuals, usually recognized by civil authority and/or bound by the religious beliefs of the participants. The fact that marriage often has the dual nature of a binding legal contract plus a moral promise can make it difficult to characterize. A married couple can be called each other's spouses, and spousal is used as a legal term for the marital relation. In one form or another, marriage is found in virtually every society. Why don't people continue in cohabitation/defacto relationships? They don’t want to establish a legal moral promise. This is also defined as an emotional, physical, and intellectually intimate relationship which includes a common living place and which exists without the benefit of legal, cultural, or religious sanction. What is the point of marriage/should it exist? The basic purpose of marriage is to establish a legal and binding contract between two individuals that are not afraid to commit to stay together because of love. This step does certified to the community that legal and personal responsibilities were accepted and furthers the future of the family that was formed. Yes, should remain the greatest and biggest step that a couple will take on their life’s.

10-21-2006, 02:38 AM	#6 (permalink)
RAINBOWWAVES Banned Join Date: Oct 18th, 2006 Posts: 713	A friend of ours was with her mate for 25 yrs. He died and his assets were frozen. Family came out of the woodwork to fight..she was in litagation for 6 yrs and only won a third of the estate. Marriage is a license to get the goods.

10-22-2006, 09:47 PM	#7 (permalink)
elfyum Newbie Join Date: Oct 17th, 2006 Posts: 8	Rainbow- I agree...I see it as a benefit for legal matters. Maria - HI!!! That's funny - that's EXACTLY how I feel about the term "boyfriend"!!! It sounds completely juvenile! That's why I call him "my love"! Husband isn't quite right because we are not "legal", but boyfriend could be anything! You could have a bunch of them...It's such a vague term...

10-24-2006, 02:33 AM	#8 (permalink)
mariatherese Junior Member Join Date: Oct 19th, 2006 Location: Detroit Posts: 34	i usually just call him "poopface."

10-25-2006, 03:32 PM	#9 (permalink)
RAINBOWWAVES Banned Join Date: Oct 18th, 2006 Posts: 713	I see not being married as a waste of good time. It's like trying on a pair of shoes but never buying them...LOL